Hair Journey Begins

I've been meaning to start this blog for a long time. Now I'm at a place in my life where I can make the time to invest in my blog and hopefully help alot of young ladies and grown women with their hair. So thank you for coming to my page and reading my blog. My journey began one day when I was driving. I looked in the mirror and noticed my edges were bald! I mean my finger can touch my cold dry scalp. I took the time to really look at and examine my hair. I couldn't believe how much damage and stress I put on my hair. I always had this mindset that "Oh I have so much hair it doesn't matter" as thick and juicy as my hair is its not Super Hair! This hair has to be cared for. I searched the internet not even knowing what I was looking for, I guess more girls like me with thick crazy ass hair. I found some great pages like Black Girl With Longhair, Curly Nikki, and lots of youtube videos. I was amazed with how many black girls had hair just like mines only longer, healthier, and thicker. So in Novemeber of 2012 I took out my braids for the last time and decided to never put them back in. I know braids are used for protective styling but on my 4C hair I believe I should only braid my hair once a year. I'll get into braids for 4C hair in another blog. Not only did I take out my braids I stopped using hair grease; Blue Magic, Dr.Mircles, Clear all of it. I started using only natural oils and I switched shampoos and added conditioner in my life. The last time I conditioned my hair I had to be when I was ten years old unless I went to the Beauty Shop. I started mixing my oils and applying them to my hair hoping it would grow. Every page and you tube view raved about Jamacian Black Castor Oil, so I bought a big ass bottle and added it to other oils like Vitamin E oil, Joba Oil, Olive Oil and other oils I love and started a hair regiem that I'm still adding too until this day. One day I used the wrong oil and my end began to split. I believe three things caused it, my hair already had split ends since I never trimmed them, the oil I used did not mix well with my other oils, and I wasn't tieing up my hair every night like I should have. My breakage was horrible. Imagine seeing your hair actually growing past your shoulders with double spilts in your hair. I was depressed. Then I researched Big Chop. Big Chops are used for when you want to get rid of the permed hair you chop off the dead ends of your hair. Deep down I always wanted to cut off all my hair I mean what 4C girl doesn't. I was scared, so many things running through my mind. Would I look like a man? Will people look and act differently towards me? Will I wanna lay in the bed and watch Buffy and Love n Hip Hop reruns until my hair grows back? As many fears I had in the back of my mind I heard two things. "Your hair will grow back. If you take care of it it will grow long and healthy". On March 21 2013 I went to a hair school paid 7 dollars n chopped off all my hair. I get the most compliments with my hair cut than with braids weaves perms or wigs. I feel so much more confident with my 4c hair. I actually love my hair. Taking care of it. Is a different story. I love certain products but my hair doesn't, the crown of my hair is extremly sensitive and I have to give extra care to. I have breakage dude to not tieing up and trimming my hair like I'm suppose to. I also discoved with my hair as much as I need moisture I also need protein. I have to accept there are things I can and cannot do to this hair. I have to actually take care of my hair everyday for it to be healthy. My hair needs water on a regualr, Wash and condition once every week, deep condition once a month, oil every week and sometimes daily,trim ends every 4 weeks, tie up hair, don't touch hair, no combs or brushes, and protein treatments is a must every six weeks, the list goes on and on and can grow as my hair grows. This is what I do for my hair, I would recommend finding what works for you and your hair just because it looks alike doesn't mean it acts alike. From March until May 1st of this year I've learned what I can and can't do to my hair. I started to grow it out I wanna say January and I got breakage my in between stage and I learned that I don't have to comb and brush my hair like little black girls like me grew up taught to do with our hair. I believe with the combs and brushing on a regular basis I have damaged my natural curl pattern. On May 1 2014 I got my second big chop and have started my second hair journey. There is no way in hell I'm big chopping a second time. The hair I get will the be the hair I will live with. I'm very comfortable in my own hair so me getting a second big chop is no as gasping as the first one. This chop is for two reasons, restore the curls in my natural hair and to look cute for the summer. Something about a natural hair woman is just sexy and I feel extra sexy this year. My next series of blogs will give tips on how to take care and manage your hair. If your looking for styles you will have to come back in three years when I have hair, but if you want to learn how to take care of your hair, you have come to the right place. We will talk about greasing the scalp VS natural oils, Comb and Brush myth and the products you should use on your hair. This will be a journey we will take together.